Friday, October 28, 2016

Mergers, Musings and Dress Codes

Lots of things and people on my mind lately.

Many things I cannot change, I can only ride the waves and see what happens, doing my best along the way.

Tomorrow is our Nashville Buddy Walk and I can't wait to spend the day with my friend Faithe and her daughter Dawn. If you follow me on Facebook or through my business pages, you may have seen a fundraiser or two for the Buddy Walk. Tomorrow we find out final totals for the teams and the rankings. The last numbers I saw Team Light Up the Darkness was in 8th place and had raised over $5,000 for the DSAMT.

I want to thank everyone who purchased items from me this year and supported fundraisers I have held. My Thirty One business has been dedicated to fundraising and I donate my commission to DSAMT or a local domestic violence shelter.

I have worked in a plant now for just over a month and found out my favorite dressy tops were against the rules yesterday. I felt bad at first, but then I realized I had plenty of other items to wear and I don't want to be a rule breaker anyway.

Our company is merging with another company out of state and our job titles are changing, our offices are moving around and our duties are changing too.

This week marked my grandson Kyson's 1st birthday out in Utah. I miss them so. My daughter in law suggested I get back busy with my candle business to earn money for a plane ticket to go out there Christmas. She is a smart cookie and knew how to get me thinking of ways to save up the dough for the plane fare.

And this weekend Halloween is upon us. We don't have any trick or treater's in our neighborhood, but I will get a few treats for my grandson's and my niece and nephew.

Keep Smiling, Do your best and Be Patient with others. -
Remember the number for domestic violence hotline is 1-800-799-7233 and share it with those that may need it. 

Thursday, October 20, 2016

Long Term Issues resulting from Abuse

My friend and fellow survivor Becca told me today a story that I had never considered.

She gave me permission to share it with all of you so that you can be aware as well.

" I discovered a long term ramification from the head blows when i was married. I got divorced in 03' & haven't been in beat in the head again since. His favorite place to hit me was there. I actually have optic nerves damage that I didn't know about until now. I have to wear bifocals & have glaucoma. 

He didn't want the marks to show so that is why he chose to hit my head. He didn't like the questions & I couldn't wear long sleeves or pants in summer.
We were married from 97-03. This is something that women in domestic violence need to be aware of (who are escaping and free now). They should get checked out. Optic nerves cannot be rebuilt unfortunately. I had no idea. I do realize that a woman can sue for damages within a certain time frame after leaving an abusive partner. That time has passed for me unfortunately. 

I now have to come up with $360 to pay for no-line bifocals (because I am vain and don't want to look 'old').

Insurance will not pay for this but I will figure this out, I always do."

Becca offered me this story today from her life to educate others, so that if you are being hit in the head, get yourself checked out and be mindful of others that are survivors of abuse. Health problems can haunt you as well as emotional issues as you come out of an abusive life and learn to cope with a peaceful life.

I wish you all peace, please always lend a hand to help others and lift each other up.
The number for the domestic violence hotline is 1-800-799-7233.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Attitude, Determination and Reality

I have been told/taught for years that your attitude will determine your altitude. That means a good attitude will determine how high you fly in an organization.

I also know from experience that when you are determined to learn a new skill or set of actions, nothing can stop you.

So, Are you determined to keep a good attitude to improve your reality?

I am in my 3rd week of learning the printing industry and starting over in a front office atmosphere after years away from this type of work. We have good days and chaos days. But by 5 pm, we all know we got the job done.

I struggle asking for help when I am overwhelmed. Today I had to swallow my pride and go admit that I needed help to get back on track.

I want to learn new things and a new industry. This is a huge learning curve and I have confidence that I will learn what I need to along the way. Changes are ahead for our company and I just have to hold on like I would on a roller coaster.

I never really thought about how one dresses for the day influences how you perceive the day, but I know If I go into a show or day of work dressed for success then I usually have a better attitude about the day. When I worked at wildlife, we were allowed to wear jeans, sneakers and t-shirts or sweatshirts year round.. that made me a bit lackadaisical about the day's work ahead of me.

I am determined to do my best, learn as I go and keep trying.

Please remember that October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. I have my nails painted purple to remind me every day that people are hurting and I am a survivor.

Please enjoy your days/nights and take time to love on those around you. Many are dealing with a cancer diagnosis, pain in their backs or dealing with many problems at home.

For those that don't know, here is the Domestic Violence Hotline. 1-800-799-7233.

Sunday, October 9, 2016

Campfires are the best therapy

We live in a wooded area and I have wanted to go camping for over a year now. I used to camp about 3-4 times a year when I had a GS troop and loved every trip with every crazy thing that happened along the way.

I thoroughly enjoyed this weekend with a time out to sit by a campfire, listen to music and enjoy the cool crisp fall evening.

My prayers are with those families who lost homes and their livelihood in the path of Hurricane Matthew.

So many changes hit our lives when we least expect it. Even when it has been on the calendar, those changes can take us by surprise and change our future lives in ways we never suspected.

I have learned to trust the timing that God has. For I know his timing perfect because all of this 'life' is orchestrated and directed/controlled by him.

At the end of the day, as long as I know those I care about are safe and sound, I am at peace. Love those you have with you and open your eyes/heart to love those that love you with their actions and not just hollow words.

Be sure and find a way (your way) to check out of the daily stress and just relax for a few hours or even a whole day. You will be the better for it, and refreshed and ready/eager to tackle what is ahead.

Be a blessing to those around and stay as positive as possible.
If you need assistance, please call 1800-799-7233

Monday, October 3, 2016

Flying Solo

Sometimes you take that leap and then wonder, did I do the right thing?

I am certain I am exactly where I am supposed to be and I am super thankful for the opportunities I have been given.

Last week I trained and learned new terms and vocabulary/jargon for the printing industry. It was a lot to take in and some of the words/phrases are still bouncing around in my head as I put them to use and figure out the ins/outs of my job.

I never knew shipping products involved so much logistics or all the math that would go into running a printing plant. I am very thankful I learned to operate an adding machine a long time ago.

Way back in 1986 when I had Typing 101 at MJHS, I never imagined I would use that one skill every day both in home business and my work life.

I am learning new things, quite a bit anxious and hoping I get it all correct. But at the end of the day and with the help of a great co-worker, we got everything accomplished. 

To quote the words of a former supervisor... "Check, Re-Check and Verify". I thought of him a lot today while I was going over and over packing lists, work orders and manifests to be sure I had the details correct.

When You are starting a new job or business, you can't sit there and not know what is going on. You have to study, make an effort to learn and educate yourself. Then, if you can't figure it out, that is the time to ask questions. Those training you will see you making an effort and not giving up.

If you need help, you have to ask for it.
Be open to listening to your friends and co-workers. You never know who is going through something crazy at home and everyone needs a shoulder to lean on or a listening ear now and then.

This is Domestic Violence Awareness month - so please be aware and please share this number with those you think could use it now or later. 1-800-799-7233.