Saturday, July 30, 2016

Illness and Depression

Many people you see and work with have chronic illnesses you may never realize.

Some people hide their illnesses and others use them as a way to get things out of the system.

I have asthma and COPD (If you believe the doctor's diagnosis). This might slow me down at times when my breathing is very labored or my coughing is really bad, however, this rarely completely stops me unless something else is going on.  Back in March, I knew something was wrong when I was cold every day and my cough was different than normal. Turned out that I had a case of Strep Throat with a touch of the flu and missed 4 days of work. It was rough.

I deal with depression and I realized today that the way I deal with my depression is very different that others I know. I say this because we as a society don't always understand when others want to be alone and left alone and potentially get our feelings hurt or damage relationships because we don't know what is really going on with others.

It is not my job to make you feel good about my illness, explain my illness or tell you everytime I am down and out.  Sometimes we just have a bad day and truly just need to be left alone.

Do your research and if you have a friend or acquaintance going through a lot of health issues, please realize they are probably dealing with depression /anxiety on some level and they may not want to hear from you, chit chat with you or even see you or answer the phone/email you sent.  Give them time and don't judge. Give them space and be there for them, but realize it may take a few days or so for them to get back to you.

I don't believe in using diagnoses as a way to get away with things or gain things/money from others. That is still stealing and being a con artist in my opinion. 

Take a step back and realize that it is not personal if you don't hear from someone as soon as you would like.  Give them space and let them know you are there when they feel better.  Maybe a postcard or thinking of you card sent to their home address will let them know you are thinking of them without invading their space.

My friend from 8th grade doesn't always answer me the same day I call her or text her, but eventually she gets back with me.  If I get that feeling that something may seriously be wrong, I do call and text and she lets me know she is ok. After 32 years, I know when to push and call until I hear something and when to let it slide.

Take care of yourself, and always be kind every day.  If you need assistance, please call 1-800-799-7233

Sunday, July 24, 2016

Schedules and Calendars

Do you keep a calendar or planner? (If you just put your work schedule and dr appointments in your calendar app on your smartphone, then you DO keep a calendar.)

Many of us are ruled by our schedules. Between work, school, homework, scouts, gymnastics and football, we all stay very busy with whatever may be on our plates.

When your normal schedule of the past few years suddenly stops and you have much more time at home, this can be overwhelming and sometimes distressing/depressing to someone that is used to being on the go even if you hated where you had to go day after day.

I have to stay on some type of schedule or I go a bit stir-crazy. Don't laugh, after a few days, most people go through this too.

I could get lazy and sit around the house and only do the bare minimum or I can get out of the house and take a walk, get the grocery shopping done or go visit a friend.

The one thing I have realized (again!) is that I was ruled by my schedule and that was not the way I want to live my life.

There is a time and place for calendars, watches and schedules, but I refuse to constantly look at them and focus on them. I have 2 appointments for this coming Tuesday and one the following week on Wednesday as of right now. I do not want every waking moment to be focused on earning income, I want to enjoy life as it comes and take in every moment for exactly what it is.

Enjoy the days ahead and make the most of them.
If you are in personal danger, seek help! The domestic violence help line is 1-800-799-7233

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Keeping my eye on the Goal

Yes, I am a very goal oriented person. I didn't use to be.. but that was before I was in direct sales or had a Girl Scout troop to lead and motivate.

My goal currently is to find a job close to home that pays the bills with a bit of wiggle room.

I have applied all over the county for office jobs, receptionist, teller, clerk, cashier and bookkeeper positions as well. I am not in a panic however.

I get anxious and I get worried every few days and have to stop that thinking to remember why we made this decision. We made it for many reasons (health and mental health to name a couple).

This week is National Conference for several direct sales companies. So as I scroll through my newsfeed on facebook, pictures on instagram and messages on twitter, I see friends, colleagues and acquaintances at the Pampered Chef conference, Thirty One Conference, PartyLite Conference and Premier Designs Rally.  I truly hope everyone is taking in a healthy dose of inspiration and sharing it with their teams back home. 

Those conferences give attendees a boost in morale, belief, teamwork and just good old motivation to get back in the game and get the job done. I love the celebrations, laughter and friendships from these events.

I am excited about the road ahead for me and my family. I hope you are looking forward to something as well. We all have trials, but please don't let the trials keep you down day after day. Get out of the house, walk down your street, call a friend and meet them for coffee to get your mind back on track.

We all need each other! Especially women, so many have their goals and leave people in the dust. But I choose to be more of a listener and lift others up. We owe it to our daughters and sons to be that light that they so desperately need.  Even if all you do is put a silly picture in a text message to let them know you are thinking about them. Do it! Send a smile! You will be glad you did.

Give of yourself and it will be given back to you!
If you are in danger, please seek help. The hotline number is 1-800-799-7233 - Please call them, don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help. That is courage and strength to know you need a hand.

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Walked Away

I walked away from my day job earlier this week. It was a tough decision but I had to stand up for myself and what I was going to take and not going to take anymore.

The verbal abuse, lack of teamwork/support and constant stress was driving me to tears at least 2-3 times a week. I tried to stay loyal and tough it out 'for the team', but in the end, I had to walk away for my own mental health.

I have had jobs before where I cried going to work for years before I left the position, but this time was different. I had the backup and means to walk away with my head held high and looking forward to the next chapter in my life.

I am nervous for sure, but I know that it will all work out.

In the mean time, I am back selling PartyLite full time and Thirty One as well.

 I currently have a fundraiser for Nashville Buddy Walk online at