Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Active Listening

Do you listen to others you are conversing with?

OR

Do you spend the time they are talking thinking of what you can say to 'one up' their comment?

I email back and forth with several people and some people I text on a regular basis.  I do my best to read their message for understanding and keep it context. I fully admit I don't always comment on everything they mention, but at times you have to be real with folks and let them know that their response was totally taken out of context. 

Communication has broken down a lot over the years thanks to technology and you can even misunderstand someone if you are talking to them face to face. Text and Emails are the worst ways to get your message across sometimes because the tone of voice and body language has been removed.  You have to hope they know you well enough to not take the message personally (if it was not meant that way)

If you don't actively listen to those you are communicating with you can miss a lot of the conversation or learning about who they really are.

Some people will repeatedly whine about the same things over and over. You can gently remind them that you have heard that story before or you can be silent and listen to it again. 

You have to listen really careful to someone going through abusive situations because they will hint at things going on and you will have to dig in to get to the root of what they are trying to tell you.  It won't be easy but it might save a life if dig and listen well.

Be a good friend and be there for people. It may cost you some time and effort but it will be rewarded later. The best friendships are constantly giving and taking and sharing. This takes work and willingness to build because they sure don't happen overnight.

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