Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Checking that off my List!

Yesterday I was able to mark something off my accomplishment list.  The funny thing is I didn't even realize this event was on my 'list' until earlier this year.

I have met this incredible person who has pushed me and encouraged me since the day she met me. Even though she doesn't consider herself a "rah rah let's go" type person, that is exactly what she has done for me since I met her November of 2013. Thank you Shelly for all your encouragement to that shy woman you met 2 years ago!

I told my personal story of survival to a room full of women yesterday. These were women in businesses of all types who gathered for a conference and exchanged information and ideas to build each other up.

Yes, I was nervous
Yes, that cup of water was my security blanket
Yes, my voice shook
and Yes, tears were shed.
But for the first time I stood up straight took a few deep breaths and told my story of survival to a room full of women.

I didn't tell it for anyone to feel sorry for me, I told it to help people in all types of relationships that no matter what they face, they can get through it, get out of it and get on with their lives.

Yesterday was this "Jonah's" moment and I am so thankful for all the women and men who have encouraged me thus far on the journey.

I continue to share and help others by listening or sharing how I dealt with particular situations. I am on a journey and constantly being reminded that our Lord and Savior is there with us during the sad days, the bad days, the day you got fired, and the day you got promoted. He is truly with us all and will never leave your side.

Welcome to my new followers and I hope the blog blesses you with each writing and that if you feel led, that you share it with others.

I am in competition with no one! I hope we all win and finish strong! Get out there and live!

If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.
 Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Breathe and Relax

I have spent way too much of my life worrying about what others think about me. Many of my friends have tried to tell me to just ignore those who constantly criticize me. I am very hard-headed (did you know that about me?) and it took a while for all of this to truly sink in.

Last week was my national conference with #partylite and I was privileged to be there and enjoyed every day with my PartyLite family so much.  I also had no worries about things at home because there was no one pestering me and asking me what I was doing every  minute of every day. This is huge difference in my life!

I got encouraging messages and congratulations when I shared announcements and awards that our team/region won. It was so refreshing to be truly supported by someone who treats me as their equal, not someone beneath them.

I also found out today that someone else in my life considers me a liar and no matter what I say or do to this person, they refuse to change their personal opinion of me.  I have come to the realization that I don't need their approval to have a happy life or day to day activities. 

I am choosing Joy and Happiness every day these days because that is what I want in my life.
I still have a full time job and a part time home based business and all the other stuff in my life, but by choosing joy instead of worry, I will look up instead of down. 

Look for the sunlight in your life every day no matter how bad it seems, there IS something to be thankful for. You are alive and still here for a reason and Please don't ever doubt that.

Have a beautiful day and remember the only person's opinion that truly matters is God's. Everyone else can go on and live their lives passing judgement but God knows our hearts.

Friday, July 10, 2015

No Apologies Required

I would guess that all of us have people in our lives that thrive on putting us down or criticizing us for anything and everything.  Some of us are lucky enough to be able to delete that person from our lives and move on without that constant badgering and negativity on our backs.  However, some of us cannot extract ourselves from the relationship with this person because of many reasons.

But, you can always put up boundaries and tell the person you refuse to talk about certain subjects with them. You have the right to privacy and boundaries are the perfect way to keep people out of your business. Some people are better when held at arm's length (or even the proverbial 10 foot pole, lol.)

Today I had to tell someone in my life that the questions they were asking me were simply none of their business.  They got very irate with me and continued the verbal attacks on me as a person and my choices in my past and my present.  This is not the first time this person has verbally attacked me but today, it got to me. For a short while today, I allowed anger to rule my life and that stole my personal joy for the day.

I had to have a talk with myself, read some scripture and get my head on straight again ... Then I realized that this person is ill and most likely won't recall a single thing they said to me today when I next am in their home.

I continue to pray for God to heal this very broken and fractured relationship that has lasted since I was 14 years of age. At this point all I can do is distance myself from this person and be as civil as possible when I am with them.

Many moons ago, I realized that I will never receive their approval and I will never do anything right in their eyes or measure up.  While that saddens me to a point, I know that I do not need their approval and their opinion of me will not send me to heaven or hell.

So, today I ask you to stop apologizing for being yourself. Be Bold and Proud out loud for who you are and where you are on your journey. Those attacking you verbally cannot truly know your perspective or the path you have taken.  Therefore, they cannot be expected to see things from your point of view.  Love them if you can, pray for them to be softened towards you but keep your distance as much as you can.  Loving someone from afar is completely possible in these types of situations.

Please seek assistance through the Domestic Violence Hotline if you don't have anyone trustworthy to turn to. 1-800-799-7233

Thursday, July 9, 2015

No Comparison

Recently I heard a young lady beating herself up verbally because of the situation and circumstances surrounding her and the divorce she is in the middle of. 

It broke my heart to hear her saying such negative things about herself.  I went to her and spoke to her and encouraged her to believe in herself, stand her ground and not give up the fight she is in the middle of.  I reminded her she was fearfully and wonderfully made by our creator and that she did have a purpose for being here. We parted ways with a hug and a smile and I have her on my mind even this morning.

I caught myself comparing myself to her in looks and appearance and dress.  We as women spend way too much time comparing ourselves to other women or being jealous of what other women have or have accomplished in their lifetimes.

Comparison will steal your joy and keep you from seeing what God has blessed you with. I know first hand because I fight it quite often myself. My friend reminds me gently in a text message from time to time that I am the daughter of the Most High King and I too am wonderfully made and loved by our Creator.


Forgive me for accusing you of making a mistake when you made me.  From now on, I accept with joy your decision to make me average. I surrender myself to you.    -- Kay Warren

Think of it this way, when we play comparisons, we're accusing God of messing up when he made us. Choose instead to accept exactly how God made you (flaws and all). Surrender to him and He will work wonders within you and through you.

Let's all go forward choosing to not compare ourselves to others in any shape form or fashion. The only person we can change is ourselves if we want.

I pray everyone that reads this is encouraged and believes a little more in themselves and how God doesn't make mistakes, he created us as we are and nothing surprises him. He loves us no matter what.

If you need assistance or questions answered, call the Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233.

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Overwhelming Love

I Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 Love is a 4-letter word that means so many different things to so many different people. 
People say they love Mexican food, their jobs, their children, grandchildren, spouses, family and friends.

This day and age I am one to closely choose who I use this word with. Love does not come easy for me at all. 

Many in my past who claimed to love me have left me, abandoned me, or even hurt me and those in my close family circle. That is not what I want in my life. Love is an action verb because you can see by someone's actions how they truly feel about a person. If you question what they are doing, then just ask them. You really don't know their journey or why they act a certain way if you just sit back and watch them.
  
I am here to say that when you are loved on and poured into by a truly loving family (or a particular circle of friends), you have no choice but to pour that love out to others in your life.  

Love is being there day in, day out, no matter what and supporting someone through all of life's challenges. When you are met at the backdoor with open arms in the family of someone you truly deeply care about, you may be swirling in many emotions.

This past weekend, I met some extended family and was met with open arms by all of them. They welcomed us into their home, we had meals together, talked for hours and went to church together on Sunday before we had to return to the daily workweek here in Dickson. I felt so loved in those two days that it is truly hard to put into words.  I was overcome with love and tears and thankfulness to this family that has taken me in with open arms and welcomed me as part of their clan. 

Being loved without question or condition is simply a beautiful thing. However, if you are in a relationship that is conditional on you doing something for another person, you are in a dangerous situation. Please know that there is hope for the future for all of us! 

Don't despair in your current situation and keep yourself in a Bible-based church, go to work everyday and do the tasks in front of you until something else changes. Put God First and all the other blessings will be given unto you. 

If you are in a dangerous situation and need assistance, please write down the domestic violence hotline number and save it in your phone 1-800-799-7233.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Are you Unsettled?

I have had an overwhelming feeling of being unsettled since the beginning of 2015.

I was not entirely certain what I was unsettled about but I kept praying and doing my job and working my business and praying about it so I would eventually know where I was being led.

This has been an exciting year full of new people, new opportunities and growth for me personally and lots of healing in many parts of my life.

I am definitely on a journey and though I am not exactly certain where the journey is leading me I am completely "ok" with going along for the ride so to speak.

Being unsettled to me has been like a little bird being taught to fly by the mama bird and to the point of being pushed out of the nest so we are forced to fly on our own. Scary? Most definitely because I do not like or relish change in most parts of my life. 

But this year I have learned that if you always say no to the opportunities offered, you will never know what they could have meant to you along the way.

So, if you are unsettled or feel change coming on, Please choose to pray about first and constantly and then make your decisions with as much information as possible. Stay open minded and you just might find yourself with a new job, a new relationship and a new home!  The possibilities are endless and when we put our entire lives in God's Hands, He will deliver things that we never dreamed possible.

So Embrace being unsettled and Embrace change in your life. You will be glad you did!

If you are in immediate danger call 911!
For assistance in your community to get out of a difficult, threatening situation, please call 1-800-799-7233.

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