Friday, May 29, 2015

Life Changing Decisions

Sometimes things happen that change the course our our life that are completely out of our control. A death in the family, a job loss or other sudden events.  Then there are things that happen in our lives and we choose to continue that pathway or walk away from it.

The beauty of free-will is that you can choose which life you will lead, and which path you will follow. You even have the choice about how to react to a 'bad thing' happening in your life too.

Meeting someone new can change your perspective if you allow it.

Stay true to yourself and your core principles but embrace the change and you will be amazed at how differently you look at life after some time passes.

For those of us who have been single for a while there are many quotes floating around on instagram and facebook that speak a lot of truth. I hope these encourage you.

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Just a little talk with Jesus

Many have called Jesus Christ the Great Physician.  We are commanded to go to him in prayer about everything, every decision, every issue, everything we are thankful for and for every step we make.

But yet, there are many who choose to not pray about everything.

I was brought up that your prayers were for those deathly ill or for those who did not yet know the Lord.

However, the older I get and the more I study, I realized that the Bible says to pray with out ceasing and to make supplication to the Lord about everything.  Yes, our Lord and Savior knows everything we are going through, but it takes some humility to name what is bothering you and verbally lay it at Jesus's feet. 

Through complete surrender and giving everything to our Lord through prayer and conversation, we are acknowledging the fact that we cannot make it without His strength and power. 

Think of it this way, you have a family doctor who you visit for check-ups, cold, flu, bronchitis and things of that nature.  Would you go to the doctor and pay your co-pay, sit in the exam room and not tell your doctor why you are there?  Or would you set an appointment, make a list of  concerns and issues and lay it all out before the doctor?  If you want the doctor to truly help you, you have to tell them what is wrong and why you are there.

In my lifetime, I have had only one therapist that truly helped me and because of my shame over my spouses affairs, I never told her I was dealing with a cheating spouse, I saw her every 2 weeks and never mentioned it until the end of my time with her.  She was very hurt by this and told me that all of a sudden things make sense and that she no longer felt she was treating me with one hand tied behind her back. That was a horrible mistake on my part, but I learned my lesson. 

I have had many doctors over the years that I only told part of the truth to. My current doctor saw through the smoke and mirrors in 2010 and since that time, I have been completely comfortable and not judged for my feelings, attitude or health problems.  I honestly can and will tell my doctor everything going on with me so that he is best equipped to help me.

Don't you think that the one who created us wants the best for his creation?  He numbers the hairs on our heads and only asks us to obey him.  Take every concern and thought to God in prayer and lay them at his feet so that you can truly be released from your worries and cares. 

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Monday, May 11, 2015

Messed Up

I have a confession to make:

I am messed up. I have messed up a lot of things and I have gotten many things in my life terribly wrong.

I don't say the right thing at the right time
I avoid those who cause me constant mental/verbal pain
I have run away so many times you might want to call me Jonah

I have also been blessed in ways I never expected or asked for.
I have friends all over the US who would answer a call if I dialed their number.

I have a full time job and a part-time job and sometimes I don't want to do either of them.  But, I buckle down and do the right thing even with tears steaming down my face and my heart full of depression and wonder why God still has me here.

In the big picture, my life is very good and I am overwhelmingly blessed to have what I have.  I know this and I thank God for it every day and several times a day.

I despise holidays. Nearly All of them for many different reasons, but they mostly are emotional reasons that I just don't wish to face.  So when a holiday rolls around, don't expect to see me at the celebration for very long. 

As I have told a new person in my life recently, what you see is what you get and I am pretty messed up in most places. But I am a good person deep down if you care to find her.  I have hope for the future and working every day to do better in all parts of my life. 

My choice for my future is this:
God First
Family Second
Work/Job Third

This seems to be the only formula that truly gets me through all the tests/trials of my life. I hope it serves you well too!

Friday, May 8, 2015

God's Timing

Some of you may call this coincidence, luck or the planets aligning, for me, it is nothing but God's Timing and favor in my life and those around me.

Last Summer at a Leadership Conference I made a vision board with big goals, little goals, wishes for my children and grandchildren and goals for my health as well as business.  I achieved some of those goals and some I have not reached yet, or changed my mind about them after much prayer.

On that vision board, I wrote 2 very important goals to me at this time in my life:
1) Get a newer vehicle and build my credit
2) Find my own apartment.

Yesterday, through very different series of events and circumstance, I was blessed with the opportunity to get a new vehicle.  It also involved the typical time of waiting, watching, paperwork and questions, but at the end of the day yesterday I was so thankful to be the owner of a new vehicle.

Once the papers were signed, I was seen jumping up and down, crying, hugging, texting and praying/thanking God for the blessing as only He can do.

Trust God's Timing in everything!!
Your job
Your income
Your family situations
Your business

When you completely give it ALL over to God, He will bless you in ways you never saw coming.  It may appear that this deal came out of nowhere.. But I guarantee you that God was putting things into place for a long while before you ever saw a glimmer of the dream coming true.

I pray you stay thankful, be open to God's Blessings in every form and that you always look for the best in people, because when you seek that, you will surely find it as well.

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Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Peace even in Traffic

Are you the type of person who's mood is dependent on the traffic flow on the way to work? I know of people who if they had to wait 15 minutes in a traffic back up will complain half the day and make themselves have a very negative day.

I truly wish those people would choose to see life differently and choose to enjoy the blessings of having a car, not walking to work and being truly thankful for what they do have.  Instead all they do is murmur and complain.

That makes me very sad for them as well. Some of these folks I have attempted to encourage and others are so hardened of heart that I am fearful to even attempt to speak peace/joy to their lives and days.

Back in 2010 when I started working in Nashville (again after a 2 year break), I had to get used to the traffic flow, different way to work and all the commotion that goes with a commute.  I had to learn, or re-learn ways to work to get around wrecks and shut-downs.  When I would have to work late and drive home at 11 or 12 at night, I said a prayer  for my drive home. I prayed for peace, calm, clarity and for my eyes to see the dangers on the road and for God's protection along the way.

I still say that same sort of prayer every time I get in the car for my 45-50 minute commute. I go through several interstate exchanges and split lanes that can get dangerous at times if others on the road don't follow the road rules.

Just the other day I got stuck behind a fire truck and ambulances while attempting to get to the interstate.. It was crazy merging traffic and lots to pay attention to.. but I kept my radio on low, kept my eyes open and didn't get loud or ugly and just patiently waited my turn. And my blood pressure didn't rise. And I got safely through the mess. It is just part of daily life in 2015 that you are going to have traffic.

Traffic is just not on the roadways, we have traffic at work (jobs to do, people to deal with, schedules to deal with, etc.) So be patient in all things. I still have to work on this because I too am part of the "want it now" society. But I know that God's Timing is perfect and God's blessings will be bigger and greater if we wait on him to make it happen.

So pray for yourself in your daily traffic and seek the peace in the every day! Seek and Ye Shall Find!

2 Chronicles 14:11 - "Lord, there is no one besides you to help in the battle between the powerful and those who have no strength; so help us our God, for we trust in you and Your name..."

Friday, May 1, 2015


There are all types of moms and everyone has to make choices for their family that suit them best. I have many regrets when I look back on my years as a single mom.

I had to tell my kids no a lot because we just didn't have the money for things.

They grew up in apartments and it wasn't until I remarried that we actually lived in a house. I wish I could have done more for my children on my own.

My children were blessed to have Nana & Grandpa close by and every day I am thankful for everything my parents did for us all those years and even now they continue to help us any way they can.

Of all the things in my life, accomplishments, jobs, titles, and opportunities, my 2 treasures are my children. If they need me, I will be there.

But you see, they don't need me - They are both grown and have families, jobs and goals of their own. I am simply Mom these days and Mimi to the grandchildren. I completely identify with the moms who feel left behind or invisible and I want to encourage you!

So my message today is to all the Moms out there today:

No matter your family structure, remember every day that you are raising children and treasure every day. Even if it is Fish Stick and French Fry night and you are watching that DVD for the 100th time, hug those children because it won't be long before they are gone and you will be left behind.

On those days you feel left behind, seek God and ask him for direction.

Pray for your children no matter how old they are or what they may be doing. Whether you see them daily or not for years at a time, pray for them and it will help you cope during your season.

I am still finding my way and trusting God Almighty to show me the way. God's timing is perfect and God sees everything you do and God treasures the work of moms everywhere.

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