Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Fault-Finding

Do you have someone in your life who is constantly telling you how everything you do is wrong or they have a better way? Do they constantly just want to help but you feel defeated around them and even stay away from them so you don't get 'corrected' all the time?

I am not saying it is wrong for a friend to try to help someone they care about. I am saying that you are wrong if you continually find fault with someone day after day and week after week.  No one likes to be constantly corrected and put down because they don't measure up to you or your opinions.

I see fault finding going hand-in-hand with those busybodies we all know.  The ones that ask how you are and then get nosy about the situation and keep asking for more 'dirt'.  They may claim they are only listening but be aware that the traits of fault-finding, busybodies often lead up to gossiping as well. So your personal issues with someone may end up on the town gossip line before it is all said and done.

Nothing is gained by judging another person on this earth. In fact we are taught in Matthew not to judge others.

Matthew 7:1-3 (KJV)
1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

Everyone has faults and everyone has sin that we are to repent of and seek forgiveness for. No one is immune to this for we are all human. Judging another person for who they associate with, where they go to church or even what foods they choose to eat is not going to get you any friends. 

I used to know someone in college who felt it was his God-given right to walk up to complete strangers at the Grill (MTSU) and invite them to church. If they said no, that they went somewhere else, he proceeded to tell them they were going to hell.  It was not a pretty sight to watch and as far as I know he didn't get any converts that way at all.  

I recall the saying "You get more flies with honey then vinegar" holds true today in many aspects of our lives.  You truly cannot get your message across to a receiving heart/mind if they are not willing to listen to your message. 

Be Kind, and seek to correct yourself first and you won't have time to correct others.

If you are in danger, please get out and get some help -- 1-800-799-7233 Is the Domestic Violence Hotline. Or contact your local YWCA or shelter as well. Most have been where you are and truly want to help you help yourself!